Singler Files #2 – Marriage, and Marriage, and Marriage… Oh My!

by Sarah on December 20, 2013

light bulbs - Singler Files Welcome to the second Singler Files. Yes, it’s been a while since the first one. But hey, life happens. I have plenty of things in store for 2014, though, so it’s time to get things fired up again.

Have thoughts on the below articles or other great resources you’ve seen lately? Don’t forget to share them in the comments.


#1 – An Actress Who’s Not Getting Married

Cue shock and awe!

In this article, Kristin Davis (Charlotte from Sex And The City) talks about being a single mother. I appreciated this quote, in particular:

“I don’t know that I necessarily totally intended to [still be single], though I do remember being young and thinking, ‘Why are all these people getting married?’”

Kristin, I think that all the time.

#2 – Is Marriage More Important to Men?

In this piece from NY Mag, they discuss how 79% of men consider marriage to be an important element of success, while only 66% of women feel the same way.

I’m not sure how I feel about this article. On one hand, it seems hopeful that if marriage is becoming less important as a metric, maybe that’s the first step towards people being able to think more critically about what I like to call the marriage-matrix (in other words, the underlying assumption that marriage is a thing that all people should do and is generally good and even natural.)

That being said, the number of women who don’t consider Relationships an important part of their definition of success is only 9%. I’d be okay with that if they meant little “r” relationships, meaning all the relationships in our life not just the sexual/romantic ones, but I suspect they don’t. And I see no evidence in my own personal life of any decline in the importance of marriage. Although maybe I’m just not hanging out with the right 34% of the female population.

#3 – Coming Out As A Modern Family

While it’s not about being single, this article from the New York Times a few weeks ago epitomizes the idea that relationship don’t always fit into the standard mold. And that’s a good thing.


That’s it for the Singler Files today folks! Let me know what you found useful and what you would like to see next time by leaving a comment below!

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